What Becomes of the Broken-Hearted?

Just as Jimmy Ruffin sang back in the sixties "what becomes of the broken-hearted, who have lost love and then departed... " People have been falling in love and then losing it all since time began. Humans being after all human, will probably continue to do so for a long time into the future as humans seem unable to follow the relationship guidelines that society expects lovinga.com review but cannot control. Greed, promiscuity and availability make cheating easy to the tempted. Society tells us "we deserve" to be happy and if this means taking what is not ours to take or try, we do it and justify our reasons leaving behind a fall-out of family disconnections and unhappiness.

 

So "the broken-hearted" has an option to "swallow some cement and get on with it", to lay around playing Celine Dion songs, drinking vodka and crying like Bridget Jones, to self harming and/or risky behaviour or hopefully to going to see a professional counsellor.

 

What might a counsellor be able to do, you may think? After all, it has happened and that can't be erased. The lying, the cheating actually happened and so the heart was broken. Dreams were shattered, memories tainted and much confusion abounds around what was real, genuine or truthful. Nothing will ever be the same again and that person lovinga.com  who did these things can never be trusted... well probably never ever.

 

That's where love gets confusing. What happens if they have broken your heart but you still love them? What happens if you are broken-hearted but you want them back? How can you ever trust them again? How can you be sure they have broken up with the other party for good? Paranoia abounds... do they have another phone? Are they still contacting the other party in some way?

 

You have done an amazing detective job and checked the entire computer files, the office and the phone scouring for everything and anything that could be evidence of further contact. Then you have looked relentlessly for more stab-in-the-heart information that was not previously lovinga uncovered at the first shock horror moment of truth.

 

You can't do this alone. You need help. You might not want to confide in family or friends for privacy reasons. You need unemotional confidential dialogue and guidance. I urge you to seek professional help. Go to a relationship counsellor and you will get unbiased help and confidentiality. Professional guidance will be given for your well-being and mental health, as well as your next responses to the situation including referral for legal assistance if necessary. Counsellors work with individuals, couples and families to re-create balance and harmony and communication. Whatever your goals are, you will lead the way. What becomes of the broken-hearted? Well actually you have choices. Healing comes in many ways and is achievable and realistic over time especially with professional help.